When you start working on your finances, you're going to realize something big: suddenly, you see that you are 100% in control of your money.  

 

You are the boss!

 

You control where your money goes.

 

You control what you spend it on. You control how much you have left at the end of the month to pay off debt or save for that fab vacation to the beach.

 

 

But what happens when your control slips?

Every once in awhile, you're going to get an invitation to do something that you really don't want to do.

 

The dreaded invites

Let's use a real-life example:

 

A few years ago, I had a part-time job at a gym. (have I ever told you guys about that? I worked part-time on weekends while having a full time job during the week. It was a little crazy). I made friends with some of my coworkers and they would often invite me out to dinner to "fancy" (in my mind) places after our shifts.

 

My issue with these invites was for multiple reasons. First, I liked the coworkers, but they weren't my best friends or anything. I spent a lot of time with them at work, and didn't really need to see them for hours after work too.

 

Also, I'm not really a restaurant type of gal. I don't get excited trying new restaurants.

 

And finally, there was the money factor- I hated spending $20 for a dinner that I didn't really want to be at! (especially when I was making minimum wage at the part-time job- that $20 dinner was practically half of my take home pay for that day!)

 

 

So what do you do when people invite you places that you just don't want to go?

I am by no means an expert on this- I'm writing this post to get your ideas on it! But here are the options I see available:

 

Option 1: The lie.

Yeah, I know, we are taught not to lie. But sometimes, a little white lie is the only thing that can get you out of an invite! You might invent a coffee date with another friend, or a family get together.

 

Option 2: The {truthful} reason.

Maybe it's the business that I'm in, but I feel pretty comfortable saying that I don't want to spend money on something.

If someone invites me to an event that I just don't want to shell out money for, I feel pretty comfortable saying, "sorry, but I really am trying to save money this month". Usually people respect that.

But beware of the people who say, "well, it's only going to be, like, $20!" (to which, I want to say: "yeah, and that's almost 4 burritos at Chipotle!")

 

Option 3: The truth.

I hate this option because I feel like I'm going to hurt people's feelings by saying "sorry, but I just don't want to go". I mean, maybe it's a girl thing, but have you EVER said "thanks but no thanks" to a dinner invite?!!? Is that even allowed?

 

 

Tell me... what do you do when someone invites you somewhere that you don't want to go?